How To Move On After Being Ghosted
- Talina
- Tips & Guides
- 12 Apr, 2024
Moving On After Being Ghosted
We've all been there. You meet someone, sparks fly, and just when you think you've made a real connection... they disappear. No call, no text, no trace. Congratulations, my friend, you've been ghosted! As painful as it is, it's a common occurrence in the modern dating world. Being ghosted sucks - there’s no other way to put it.
Accept & Embrace
First things first, accept that you've been ghosted. It's easy to come up with a multitude of reasons - they're busy at work, they lost their phone, they've been abducted by aliens. But deep down, you know the truth. Stop wasting your precious energy on this person. They decided to take the coward’s way out, and that says more about them than it does about you. Don’t let them keep haunting your mind. The first step towards moving on is acceptance. So, review the facts, and call it for what it is - a classic ghosting.
Treat Yourself
Now that you've accepted the reality, it's time to move on. What better way to get over someone than by focusing on yourself? Make a list of all the things you enjoy doing for yourself but may have put on hold while you were cuffed. Binge-watch your favorite shows, take yourself out for a fancy dinner, or book that massage you’ve been dreaming about. Delete your ghost’s number, unfollow them on social media, and purge your space of their memories. They key is to remind yourself that you don’t need a partner to feel complete.
Surround Yourself with Your Friends
Don’t underestimate the power of your friends and family during this time. They love you (probably more than that ghoster ever did), and they’ll be there to support you with open arms, endless venting sessions, and maybe even a night out on the town to remind you how many other fish there are in the sea. Lean on them, and you’ll soon realize that you’re anything but alone.
Get Back on The Horse
When you’re ready, it’s time to open your heart and welcome new spirits. This doesn’t necessarily mean jumping back into the dating pool right away. It could simply mean making space for new experiences, hobbies, and new friends. Try that painting class you’ve always wanted to participate in, go on a solo trip, or adopt a pet. The idea is to focus on yourself and what makes you happy.
If you do decide to get back into the dating game, you’ll be equipped with better skills. You know all the red flags to look out for, and you won’t settle for anything less tan someone who respects you enough to communicate like a grown-up. Who knows? Your next match could be the one who finally lays those ghostly feelings to rest.
Being ghosted can be tough, but it’s a reflection on the other person, not you. You’re a catch, and anyone who can’t see that isn’t worth your time or energy. With the right mindset, it can also be an opportunity for self-discovery and growth. So, dust off those cobwebs, and march on with your head held high.